Why was there a different childhood in the USSR. Life Stories Create Happy Memories

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As a child, I was restless and gave my parents a lot of trouble. Recently, my mother and I recalled interesting cases from my childhood. Here are some funny episodes:

Once, on a walk in kindergarten, my girlfriend and I came up with the idea, but should we quietly go home, watch cartoons, because kindergarten is so boring. And so we quietly slipped to the exit, the gate, to our joy, was not closed. And finally - freedom! We felt like adults and were truly happy. We knew the way home very well, since it was located three blocks from the kindergarten. We had almost reached the house, when suddenly our neighbor Uncle Misha, who was going to the bakery, blocked our path. He asked us where we were going and why we were alone, turned us around and led us back to the kindergarten. This is how the first independent trip ended sadly for us, because we didn’t manage to watch cartoons that day, because. we were punished.

And this story happened to me when I was taken to my grandmother for the summer, I was a little over 3 years old. I played in the house with toys while my grandmother was busy in the garden, and then, tired, I crawled under my grandmother's bed and fell asleep safely there. My grandmother came into the house, began to look for me, first in the house, then in the yard, then all the neighbor's children were raised to help, who examined the surrounding places. They searched behind the garden, near the river and even in the well ... More than two hours passed, adults joined the search. What was going on then in my grandmother's head, only God knows. But then, to everyone's amazement, I appear on the threshold of the house, yawning and sleepily rubbing my eyes. Then my grandmother and I often recalled this incident, but with a smile.

And another case when I already went to school. I was then 7-8 years old. I must say that I really loved poking around in my mother's jewelry box with beads, trying on her high-heeled shoes and various beautiful blouses, but most of all I was not indifferent to my mother's cosmetic bag. And here I am, once again, I decided to audit my mother's cosmetic bag and found a bottle of new perfume (as I later found out, these french perfume"Klima" dad got with great difficulty, as everything was in short supply at that time, and gave it to my mother for her birthday). Naturally, I decided to open them immediately. But it was not so easy to open them, I tried my best and finally opened it, but at the same time the bottle slipped out of my hands, fell first on the sofa, then rolled onto the carpet. Naturally, there was almost nothing left in the bottle. Mom was very upset then, and a wonderful aroma of perfume hovered in the house for a long time.

I conducted a small survey among my acquaintances on the topic of children's pranks and almost everyone got 2-3 interesting stories. A friend told me that she decided to cut flowers out of her mother’s new dress and make an applique for a labor lesson out of them, the employee shared a story of how she and her brother threw tomatoes at each other, which mom bought the day before for seaming, but the most interesting thing was that they threw themselves in the room which has recently been refurbished. And he spoke about the reaction of his mother, who came home from work and saw this art.

Surely you also have funny stories from childhood, I would be interested to hear them and laugh with you.

Childhood… So fleeting and so carefree. Doctors believe that immunity is laid at this time for the rest of your life. Of course, they are right, but it's not just immunity. In childhood, such concepts as honesty, decency, justice are also laid. The first betrayal happens, and for the first time you have to make a choice, deciding what is good and what is bad. And on what childhood was, it largely depends on how a person will grow up and how his future life will turn out.

We, who grew up in the USSR, are so unlike the youth of today. This is neither bad nor good. We are just different, and we had a different childhood.

We were not afraid to be funny and ridiculous and easily went for a walk in stretched pants and old sneakers. We also laughed and joked if someone stumbled or fell, but only later, and at first we hurried to give a hand. In our childhood there were no tablets, cell phones and game consoles. When we were bored, we talked with friends. We knew by heart all the series “Well, wait a minute!” and waited on Fridays "Visiting a fairy tale."

Our toys were simple and clear, they did not have complex electronic filling and radio control. But we constantly changed them and, without hesitation, lent to friends. There were no steel doors in the entrances with combination locks. When we went out for a walk in the evening, we went in one after another and, going around the house, recruited boys for two football teams.

Walking on the street, we fell, stuffed bumps, lost teeth, smashed our elbows and knees until they bled. Gritting our teeth, we smeared abrasions with brilliant green in the evenings, we are men, and men do not cry! If we fought, we did not ask for mercy and, having earned bruises, did not admit from whom we received them. And it never occurred to our parents to sue because of a black eye under their son's eye.

We didn't know that you can't drink raw water, catch frogs and dig worms with your hands. There were no locked cabinets at home, and we, without looking through the peephole, opened front door. We did not have safety helmets, but if someone had a bicycle, the whole yard took turns riding it. We knew how to saw and hammer nails, and if we found strong boards and a couple of wheels in a landfill, we could make an excellent gurney.

We spent whole days on the street, returning home only for dinner. Our parents believed in us, because then there were no mobile phones, and no one controlled us. At the same time, we studied well, distinguished sines from cosines, Ursa Major from Ursa Minor, managed to learn a bunch of poems, understand Dostoevsky and fall in love with Chekhov. We wrote abstracts by hand, and went to the library for information. We still write without errors and help our grandchildren with mathematics.

We did not know about a healthy diet, we adored fried potatoes, lard and bread and butter. There were almost no fat ones among us, because we rarely sat still. If they didn’t play football and didn’t play robber Cossacks, then a team was recruited to build a pirate ship or a detachment of partisans. We drank from the same bottle, took turns biting off a sandwich, and a real friend always gave me chewing gum. Green plums and apples were our favorite foods, and if they hurt our stomachs, we never confessed to our parents.

And how we could be friends! We had a need for communication, we could just chat with friends, organize an “expedition” to the nearest construction site or to the forest. We often burned bonfires, and this was not considered an emergency or a violation of the law. We could steal a couple of pieces of bread from the house and roast them over the fire, planting them on twigs.

We made fireworks from match heads, bungee jumped into the river, certainly climbed trees and built huts in the summer. It didn't occur to us to ask our mother's permission for all this, the policemen didn't grab us by the hand, and the teachers didn't demand from the parents a detailed account of what their children do after school.

If we did something, then for real, without hypocrisy and "a stone in the bosom." They fought to the “victory end”, fell in love desperately, were friends for life. It was a shame to hide behind the back of the parents, show off "cool" relatives, give bribes and "mow down" from the army.

The measure of actions was conscience, not money. Parents knew our grades and our friends, went to school meetings, but rarely intervened. We dreamed and made plans. They wanted to be pilots, astronauts, ship captains and firefighters.

From childhood we learned to fight, to be honest and responsible. They strived to win, were not afraid of defeats and did not give in to failures. The current generation sometimes dislikes us and calls us "scoops". They forgot that it was thanks to us that a powerful state was formed, and that the "scoops" are still ready to do anything for the well-being of the Motherland!

Perhaps we do not know how to “make big fortunes”, but we know what conscience and self-esteem are, and we believe that the main thing in life is love and kindness.

Green Parenting: By creating happy memories for our children, we may well be teaching them to be happy and supportive adults.

“Perhaps the best thing that can happen to us is
it's a happy childhood, Agatha Christie

Childhood is the most unusual, amazing and incredible time in our lives. Time of discoveries, games, miracles and constant admiration for the world that the child learns every day and every hour.

But for parents, this period can be a time of anxiety in an effort to ensure the health and happiness of the child.

The best thing that can happen to us is a happy childhood

Of course, there are circumstances in our lives that can overshadow our childhood years, but for those who truly love children, the happiness and well-being of their own children always comes first.

In this article, we will describe a scientific approach to the happiness of children. Here are 10 scientifically proven tips to help make your child's childhood even healthier and happier. So…

1. Give them more time to play.

The child's main concern, or at least it should be, is to play. Yes, sooner or later in the life of any kid there will be studies, homework and some additional classes, but until this happens, while they are still very young - let them play plenty, you should not specifically limit them.

"Children learn the most important life lessons from other children, not from adults ... They either cannot learn a lot from adults, or are much less likely to do so," says Peter Gray, professor of child psychology at Boston College.

So more often let the kids go outside and play with other children.

2. Don't fight or make a scene in front of children.

In early childhood, the brain of children develops incredibly quickly and accumulates information. And when they see “adult” issues and hear them discussed in a raised voice, it can negatively affect their fragile psychological state, making them feel anxious and insecure.

Children should not hear how adults quarrel and swear - so try not to do this in their presence.

3. Don't compare them to others.

One of the main aspirations of modern society is to be successful, and the pressure of this very society often pushes us to try to awaken this desire in our children. And as soon as possible. Whether these attempts are justified or not is a moot point, but we can say one thing - you should not do this by comparing them with other children who are supposedly “better” than them.

If parents begin to show "positive" traits in other children, hoping that their baby will seek to adopt them, the result may not be as successful as they hope, and even the opposite.

Researchers believe that when a child is constantly compared to someone else, this negatively affects self-esteem and self-confidence.

4. Tell them about the benefits of negative emotions.

Let's start with the obvious - children are childish and should not be expected to have adult restraint. Almost every child has spontaneous outbursts of anger, envy, sadness, and so on. However, not everything is so bad - this behavior often provides adults with excellent opportunities.

Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington thinks that a common adult response to a child's "bad behavior" is negative - some form of punishment. As he writes in his articles, where it is better to make it clear to the child that negative emotions are experienced by everyone and that there is nothing strange about them. At the same time, it is worth teaching the baby how to constructively deal with such emotions and their consequences.

5. Notice their efforts and accomplishments.

Sooner or later, the child will reach the age at which we all understand that in order to achieve something, you need to work hard. That is why it is so important to be able to notice when a child is trying very hard to achieve this “something”.

“We advise parents to carefully monitor the processes in which your child is involved, and notice, What that's what he does. This will help you praise him for specific efforts and achievements, without getting off with general phrases: “you are so smart and you are doing so well.” Believe me, this will have a much more beneficial effect on his development, ”writes Dr. Carol Dweck of Stanford University in her articles on cognitive tasks during growing up.

6. Appreciate family traditions.

When there is common hobbies, activities or rituals, this is usually a good sign of a stable and healthy family. And stability has always been an important aspect of the growing up process.

According to experts working at the Institute for Child Development, total time hosted by family members provides children with five major benefits:

• the child feels important and loved;
• he observes positive examples of adult behavior;
• adults have time to observe children's behavior and learn more about their strengths and weaknesses;
• the child can express his thoughts and feelings, which helps to strengthen the bond between parents and children.

7. Let them take risks.

No one argues that children need some supervision, but this does not mean that adults should monitor every breath and sneeze of a child. Overprotection will not not make a child's life better, but it can also Negative influence for its development.

“Does overprotection of their own children and excessive attention to their needs and problems cause parents to underestimate their requirements for them? As a result, children rarely face difficult situations, they practically do not learn to cope with them, they do not acquire the ability to overcome difficulties, learn from mistakes, and other skills that may be useful in adult life? The results of our latest research lead us to believe that the answer to this question is likely to be yes.

8. Encourage them to develop a sense of personal responsibility.

And, since we talked about overprotection in the previous paragraph, it is very important to allow children to do what is in their area of ​​​​responsibility - be it cleaning or housework. You should not control their every step, but only check the result.

Why? Child psychologists believe that excessive supervision of every action of the baby can develop in him the confidence that he cannot do anything himself. Yes, in order to develop in children a sense of responsibility and the ability to answer for their actions, they need to be paid attention, encouraged, and even punished from time to time, but this is best done as a reaction to the result of their actions. Believe me, constant supervision does not lead to anything good.

9. Create happy memories.

In a pilot study by two Harvard professors, the theory emerged that adults who had many good childhood memories looked and felt much happier and more fulfilling than those who did not.

The researchers also noted that participants in the experiment with happy memories of childhood were much more willing to help with additional questions and tasks, condemned unethical behavior more strictly, and donated more to charity.

So by creating happy memories for our children, we may very well be teaching them to be happy and supportive adults.

10. Be happy yourself!

Children, like a sponge, absorb everything they see and hear - both good and bad. And if the adults around the child smile more often, then, most likely, he will try to imitate them in this too.

“Children cannot be happy if the adults around them do not take care of themselves and their relationships”, says Carolyn Cowen, a psychologist at the University of California.published . If you have any questions on this topic, ask them to specialists and readers of our project

P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we change the world! © econet

1. If Children's Day is celebrated all over the world, then in the Seychelles the whole Month of Children's Protection is celebrated!

2. The only one in the world kindergarten for children with bodyguards is located in Romania. On the territory of the garden there is a special extension for security guards who vigilantly monitor the children of famous parents all day long. All children in this kindergarten have mobile phones and calls to parents during the day are very welcome.

3. A couple of years ago, the Department of Education in Wales fired one of the teachers lower grades. During the lesson, she told the six-year-olds that Santa Claus didn't exist. Disappointed children came home in tears, this was the reason for the parents to complain about the teacher who treated the children so rudely.

4. The Moroccan Sultan Ismail has the most children in the world. He, like a real father, brings up 548 sons and 340 daughters. In his numerous harem, on average, a child was born every 20 days.

5. Psychologists believe that only children in a family are more vulnerable, more selfish, more purposeful, and achieve more in life. But, oddly enough, none of the US presidents was the only child in the family, which calls into question the conclusions of scientists.

6. British scientists claim that children who constantly deal with a computer learn mathematics much faster and learn to read and write 5 times faster.

7. One of the health guidelines says that children 3-4 years old can watch only one TV show to avoid the development of strabismus and nervous overload. "GOOG night kids!"

8. In Sochi this year it is planned to release the "Book of Children's Records". Its heroes can be children under the age of 18, records for endurance, agility and speed that no one has been able to beat.
To get into the book of children's records, you must send information about the child's personal record to the editor. The achievement must be unique and interesting, it must be confirmed by at least 3 adult witnesses. The guys whose record will be placed in the book will receive a special diploma.
Aphorism: “Children are the flowers of life. Gathered a bouquet - give it to your grandmother "

9. In Moscow there is a closed club of parents of "indigo children". It is not considered closed because of elitism, it is simply a necessary precaution. Because without understanding and, most importantly, trained adults, a “star” child is always a white crow among his peers.

10. The phenomenon of the so-called "indigo children" has long been studied by the world's best psychologists. These children, called "indigo" by the color of their aura, today they are considered the generation of the new millennium. They are familiar with angels and other worlds, sometimes they remember who they were in past life and know why they came into this world.

11. "Indigo children" can do five things at the same time, so that their legs, arms and head are busy. For example, the boy Danya at the age of 5 speaks four languages ​​at the same time. His activity drives his grandmother and preschool teacher crazy. Four-year-old girl Lana refuses to sleep because she thinks that she can miss all the fun in this life.

12. Ingdigo's children have always been, at all times, in all civilizations. Such children were considered geniuses or possessed. Mozart, Leonardo da Vinci, Lomonosov are typical indigo.

13. Camel racing is extremely popular in Arab countries. And as jockeys, they usually use three to four-year-old children there. They are seated on the back of a camel, and he runs himself. Children are lighter than adults, besides that they get scared, shout loudly, and this drives the camels.

14. Statistics have calculated that young children aged 3-4 years say 12,000 words a day and ask about 900 questions.

15. One winter in Israel, unexpectedly for everyone, a lot of snow fell. Immediately after this, the chief rabbi forbade the children to make a snowman on Saturdays, as he considered it work, but at the same time allowed him to play snowballs, as he considered it entertainment.

16. Sweden has a law that prohibits advertising from reaching children under 12. It is believed that at this age children are easily suggestible and advertising can negatively affect their psyche.

17. One well-known teacher agrees that children are the flowers of life, but believes that they should not be allowed to bloom.

18. Recent statistical studies in the US have revealed a surprising thing. It turns out that in the country more and more parents began to call their children names - brands. The names of Armani, Nike, Lexus, Chanel and many others are especially popular.

19. The President of the German Union for the Protection of Children recently addressed the International Olympic Committee with reproaches that sport remains the main mode of exploitation child labor. Moreover, it operates not only in distant African countries, but throughout Europe and America. And interestingly, it is often children who become Olympic champions.

20. In Dubai (UAE) three years ago, the world's largest exhibition of photographs of smiling children under the age of five was held. The exhibition, which included 18,000 photographs, was included in the Guinness Book of Records. It was the largest number of photographs collected in one place.

21. The organizers urged parents to send amateur photos of their smiling children. The response exceeded all expectations. One American couple even sent an X-ray of their unborn child. By the way, all parents received a diploma that the photo of their child is listed in the Guinness book.

22. Ganesh Seethampalam is considered one of the most intelligent children in the world. The seven-year-old boy became the youngest university student on the planet. Ganesh instantly grasps the required course of knowledge, even if he attends lectures only once a week. At this rate, he should have a bachelor's degree by the age of thirteen.

23. Recently, the so-called “bear patrols” have appeared in Miami state police stations. The toy bears accompany policemen on patrol and get into the action quite often. If children cry, they are soothed with the help of these toys.

24. In Japan, two signs can be seen in bike stands near schools. One shows several neatly arranged bicycles and the inscription: "This is how good children put bicycles." On another plate, you can see a pair of bicycles carelessly abandoned and another inscription. What do you think? "That's not how good kids put their bikes down."

25. In Japan, in relation to children, the word "bad" and "bad" is not used at all.

Unusual abilities of very young children

The baby, who is still in the mother's stomach, turns out to grow hair and a mustache. Before the baby is born, they fall out, and he even eats them.
Newborn babies in the first days of their lives see everything in black and white, after a few days they begin to distinguish red and green colors, but they still don't see blue.

After many years of observation, scientists have established such an interesting fact that children who actively crawled before standing on their legs have better learning abilities than those children who, without crawling, immediately began to walk.

But a baby can be taught to crawl almost from the first days of life. Doctors and scientists conducted such a study: newborn babies were placed on the mother's stomach, so that it did not reach the chest. For 5-10 minutes the baby lay quietly, then he began to make sucking movements with his mouth, then he began to move, crawled to his mother's breast and began to suck. So, even a newborn baby can be taught to crawl. The main thing, even from the very first days of life, is to find the right incentive.

Scientists have paid attention to such an interesting fact that small children of different nationalities cry in different ways. Their crying corresponds to the intonation of the mother's voice that they heard while still in her stomach. Italians, Spaniards and French women are more temperamental and their babies increase their intonation when crying, the crying of Nordic babies or Germans with a lower intonation.

During the first year of life, babies have the ability to breathe and swallow at the same time. After a year, this ability disappears.
Children from the first days of life have an instinctive ability to swim and hold their breath when diving. Scientists have proven this through numerous experiments. So, if a child from the first days of life is taught to swim in warm water, supporting his tummy, after a short time the child will learn to swim on his own. By the way, these kids water procedures like.

Interesting facts about the children of famous people and celebrities in childhood

Is it true that “nature rests on the children of famous people”? That is, they are not genetically inherited the abilities and talents of their famous parents? And generally speaking,

was there anything interesting or unusual in the childhood of famous people or their children? Here are some interesting facts from the childhood of celebrities and their offspring:

• The famous billionaire Rockefeller had four daughters and a youngest son. Despite the wealth of the family, children were brought up strictly, without luxury. The son, since he was the youngest, wore the dresses of his older sisters until the age of eight. And John Rockefeller Jr. not only does not hide such an interesting fact from his childhood, but is proud of him, believing that such economical principles of family life contribute to the prosperity of the family and the correct perception of material values ​​by children.
• The son of Albert Einstein did not follow in the footsteps of his father, science did not attract him. He received the specialty of an engineer, and the famous father did not prevent his son from choosing his own path in life and even supported him. By the way, Einstein's son became an outstanding specialist in his field, hereditary genius nevertheless manifested itself, albeit in a different field of activity.
• The future famous artist Pablo Picasso was born so weak that he could not even breathe. For some reason, the uncle of the future artist, who was present nearby, apparently not knowing what to do, exhaled a jet of cigarette smoke on the baby. The kid wrinkled his face, sighed convulsively, began to breathe and immediately screamed.
• Mozart composed his first pieces of music at the age of 5.
• Sofia Kovalevskaya's first acquaintance with higher mathematics occurred in early childhood. When Sophia's parents were doing repairs in the apartment, there was not enough wallpaper to cover the girl's room. And the child's room, instead of wallpaper, was pasted over with sheets describing the lectures of the mathematician Ostrogradsky on differential and integral calculus.

Hypothermia (hypothermia) is fatal for an adult. If the human body temperature for some reason remains below 28 degrees Celsius for several hours, then all organs gradually fail, the last to die is the brain. But there are no rules, no exceptions. A girl from Sweden, who, as a result of an accident, spent several hours in a cold ocean and almost drowned, was rescued and taken to the hospital. At the time of admission to the hospital, her body temperature was 13 degrees Celsius, but she survived. Doctors explain this phenomenon by saying that developing brain children are more resistant and better tolerate low body temperature.

During camel races, which are so popular in Arab countries, children who are 3-4 years old act as jockeys. Do you think that this is how parents teach their children to stay in the saddle from early childhood? No, the explanation is much more prosaic and scarier. Firstly, Small child it is much easier for an adult and it is easier for a camel to run, and secondly, children are very frightened while a camel is running, and therefore, they cry and shout loudly, by whom they urge the animal on. I wonder if there are casualties among the little riders during such races?

The Manchu tribe has very strict and patriarchal rules in the manifestation of feelings. Kissing is considered indecent not only between a man and a woman, but even a mother is not allowed to kiss her son. But if a mother caresses the genitals of her little boy with her mouth, the morality of this tribe is silent, it is considered quite permissible.
The name of the car "Niva" did not come in honor of the earing Russian fields, as many believe. The chief designers of this car named it after the first letters of their children's names. One of them had two daughters, Natasha and Irina, and the other had two sons, Vadim and Andrei.

Everyone knows how the Aryan nation was extolled in the Third Reich and what persecutions were against the Jews. In 1935, a competition was announced in the country for best photo a true Aryan child. The picture won... of a six-month-old Jewish girl, Hessie Taft. And in the choice best photo Goebbels himself participated. The photo, of course, was sent not by the girl's parents, but by the photographer, with whom they took a photo of their daughter as a keepsake. The photographer did not know that the girl was Jewish, he sent the picture, considering it very successful. When it was established that the girl was from a Jewish family, a terrible scandal broke out, the girl and her family were looked for, of course, not in order to reward. Fortunately, at first the Taft family successfully hid from the Nazis, and then they were able to leave Germany.

What unusual names are given now to children in Russia? The registry offices provided such information, for girls these names are (do not faint!) - Vanna, Eufeliya, Banana, Okeina, Gryazina, Afigenia, for boys the names, although unusual, but sound more natural, Darius (apparently, in honor of the infamous Persian king), Luchezar, Yarobog, Zhiromir, Casper, Bluetooth.

In Peru in 1939, Lina Medina gave birth to a boy with the help of caesarean section. The unusualness of this case is that the young mother at the time of birth was only 5 years old. This is the only case of such an early birth recorded by medicine.